How To Achieve Success Without Setting New Year’s Resolutions

A few years ago the Learning Annex asked me to teach another class on procrastination. I remember thinking that it was a paradox and contradiction for anyone to teach a procrastination class. How could I get a procrastinator to a procrastinating class without them procrastinating to sign up in the first place?

If you’ve ever studied goal setting or the setting of New Year’s resolutions, you undoubtedly must have heard that the average New Year’s Resolution is out the door after the first 3 weeks into the New Year. Why is this?

There are many, many reasons as to why someone delays goals, forgets them, changes them, and so on. The overall reasons differ for everyone; a quicker explanation is the following: Not only are people trying to do it all alone and without support, most people put way too many goals on their plate, be it for their daily or their yearly goals. To add to that overwhelm most people are their worst critic and the moment they “fail,” at least that’s how they feel about missing one of their goals, all the other goals go out the window, hands are thrown up in the air, towels are thrown in, you know the drill. And the fact that we shared our initially enthusiastic ambitions with the wrong people who now are in our faces saying: “I told you so.”

So what’s a more achievable solution?

First, inquire within. I am not kidding. Everyone is different about how they react to goals. To one person a test is their worst nightmare and to the next person his greatest reason for putting the nose into their books. To me deadlines are motivational, the tighter the deadline and the harder the task, the more I am turned on to getting it done. For others a deadline may be their worst nightmare.

Let’s look at the infamous New Year’s resolution to losing weight. It never fails that we are inundated with yet one more diet plan at the beginning of each New Year. To make losing weight a New Year’s resolution in my opinion is stupid. Not only is it cruel and harsh on the body, it is especially unrealistic, overwhelming and an attempt to look into an attempt to put yourself into a strip down prison. One we’re meant to break out of after the first 3 weeks in January.

So instead of sending yourself to prison on the first of each year, try this instead: Your one and only goal is to always feel amazingly great and fit.

Think about this, if you have one goal in mind and that is to feel great and fit, you have just stripped your scale of its rights. On the other hand, if you make it your goals to lose x-number of pounds then your scale becomes your say-all, your ruler, your king, your measuring stick, your boss. Instead let’s keep in mind that our bodies care for only the following; bodies want to feel cared for, fed with real food, satisfaction is a must, loved, caressed, hugged, paid attention to and used for what it was intended to (to move you around).

Are you getting it?

Let your body do the losing weight part! It was created to work FOR you and to weigh its optimal weight. All you have to do is love it, tend to it, listen to it and obey it. If your body feels your cooperation and you show it the utmost respect, your body will do the same for you in return by bringing forth the beautiful person you already are.

So make only this one promise to yourself this year: Love and respect yourself each and every day; listen to your Higher Self, its wisdom instead of other people’s wisdom. Obey your Self. You are protected according to divine order and so are all Beings, always believe in that. And walk through the doors that can be opened by you the easiest.

By the time you get to the end of 2008 and if you have faithfully held to this one desire, you will be in ecstasy, joy and amazement at how easy things fell into place for you this year. It’s pure magic indeed.

So here is to your best year!

 

About the Author:

Chaszey Sandhriel is the author of the “Letting-Go Method” and a pro on losing weight while freeing yourself from dieting. She offers free reports and audio on her website at http://www.itsmyweightloss.com and manages a weight loss blog for the lonely and sad, http://itsmyweightloss.blogspot.com.