I Am An Onion: Layers of Complexity in Persuasion and Life
August 5, 2009 · Leave a Comment
I love a good metaphor. An especially powerful metaphor for me lately has been that of an onion. The Cleveland Method deals with a deep understanding of our core drives and unconscious motivations. When we focus inward, only then can we genuinely understand others.
Many of my students in recent months have shown tremendous growth spurts in their lives by applying persuasion techniques not just to their business and sales, as they are mainly geared in my programs, but to every single facet of their lives–personal, public and business.
I was speaking with one of my students, an adviser who is becoming more and more successful in business and he was telling me how happy he was that these skills not only affected him and his career, but they mean so much in other ways. He stopped smoking and some other very positive family things have taken place as a result of these techniques. Read more
Improve Yourself – What Is Really Important To You
July 29, 2009 · 1 Comment
Life is inevitably a strange thing. We learn through experience, but often only gain that experience after much of our life has been lived. It is a catch-22 of a classical sort. To improve yourself quicker, you might consider the thoughts of these famous individuals. Read more
The Benefits Of Hypnosis
July 7, 2009 · Leave a Comment
Control
The medical profession uses hypnosis to help patients in many ways: to stick to a particular food program,control pain, quit smoking, prepare for surgery, and accomplish all types of amazing feats. Learning self-hypnosis is the ultimate act of self-control because hypnosis allows people to use more of their potential, .
In the mental health area, it is used for phobias, anxiety, sexual problems, alcoholism, smoking control, speech disorders, weight control, chronic pain, age regression therapy, self-esteem/ego strengthening, memory/concentration improvement and forensic work. In medicine, it uses include anaesthesia and surgery, obstetrics/gynaecology, control of bleeding, pain control, burn therapy, dermatology and habit control. Read more
The Magic And Simplicity Of Building Self-esteem
June 20, 2009 · 1 Comment
There is nothing better for self-esteem than building self-esteem. As strange as that sounds, it is that simple. A lot of people think that one has to be either born with self-esteem, or maybe was popular in high-school and held onto that for the rest of their lives, always succeeding at whatever due to public support. The truth is, nothing could be further from the truth. This is actually not the case at all. The beauty you had a crush on in high school who maybe relied mainly on beauty for self-esteem later becomes an adult, has children and stretch marks, and a bad marriage. She escapes into television and maybe chemical dependence. It doesn’t always happen that way, but more regularly than you may think. In other cases, children born into royalty, Hollywood elite families, etc. have much expected out of them from the start. This can erode self-esteem early. I am not saying this happens to all the high and mighty, but it is more commonplace than one might think. So, once again, self-esteem can do wonders for your self-esteem. That might not make sense if you feel your self-esteem has diminished for whatever reason. My point is, it can be learned for the first time, or be established maybe for the first time in a whole new lifestyle. We have the right to reinvent ourselves. Were you the star-wrestler in high school with rippling muscles and worked out regularly and was applauded every time flexed? Did you make good grades and were used to positive feedback? Maybe this enhanced yoru esteem early in life. But now life is different. Perhaps you have a big money-making business that does not interest you and you want to sell it. The pay all goes to an ungrateful wife who spends it on fashions and takes vacations with her girlfriends. Look around now. Did the self-esteem go down? The truth is, as adults, we more often than not, have to create our own self-esteem. And the closer we get to knowing our real selves, the closer we get to higher self-esteem. We no longer get all the unconditional love, attention, and acknowledgment of our deeds we did when we were younger. It builds by the little things we do. Try it, keep a journal, and look at it next year. Read the whole year and see how dramatically you have changed for the better. Even on a depressing day, drive yourself to a soup kitchen and volunteer. Visit a shut-in; run an errand for someone wheelchair-bound. Tutor a childwith his/her homework. Do something positive to get outside of yourself. You will not get back your self-esteem most likely in one day. But if you find yourself making it a habit of helping others, you will slowly find your self-esteem rising. It is a natural consequence of helping others and getting outside oneself. Maybe it’s physics. The universe works in this fashion. We can fight it or join it. Iwith depression and low-self-esteem since my teen years (even when I was a popular kid). I always felt alone, even with people. Then I grew up. I became an adult. All of a sudden I was in my late forties. How did it all happen so fast. It was a blur. But now, I’d had a major heart attack and I was keenly aware of my mortality. Heart attack? That was what other people had, not me. I guess everyone thinks that. So I took a week and analyzed my life. I took, (as Richard Dreyfus’ book in ‘What About Bob?’, baby steps. I studied. I researched. I learned. I even went back to college online. Online colleges lured some of them and they continue to study. All these little things worked toward building my self-esteem and I don’t say build it back. I don’t think I ever had it in the first place. So self-esteem is new to me, and a little goes a long way. Many people have had it much rougher than me. I have endured much in my life including homelessness, and I am certain there are many others who have even meaner stories, so if I can do it, anyone can. I just take a little time out of each day and do something positive, or create something, work on one of my projects, write a story like this one, to build my self-esteem. I may miss the mark some of the time, but I try to learn to do it right the next time, and still, I take time for myself to do just a little something positive for me or someone else, or both, for no pay, even if they insist. In ten years of doing this, I feel I’ve made me a better person, and given that, made the world a little better place. I launched Londons Times Cartoons which makes people laugh. I then opened numerous gift stores like LTSuperstore, RickLondonCollection, Justfunnygreetingcards,Justfunnycoffeemugs, Justfunnyaprons, Mirthgirthbirth, RickLondonwear, Justfunnymousepads, Justfunnyhoodies, etc. People order my cartoon gifts and collectibles from these stores and other people laugh and feel better about themselves as well. When we are around humor or feel humorous, we don’t take life so seriously. If you do not feel you are a funny person, that is okay. Simply expose yourself to humor, on a daily basis. As time goes by, changes eventually happen, for the positive. They did for me, and I was definitely not a funny person. It won’t happen overnight, I can almost guarantee you. But it will happen if you put forth just a little effort. Remember Bill Murray, once again, in ‘What About Bob’. Baby Steps. And each of those baby steps will build you into the person you always wanted to be, and more. Cartoonist Rick London battled depression and low self-esteem for years. He has since taken a path to feeling better about oneself. He makes others laugh with his cartoon gifts & collectibles and Top Internet Offbeat Cartoons Easy Self-Esteem: Even If You’ve Never Had It
Do You Have 2 Opposing Definitions Of Success?
May 5, 2009 · Leave a Comment
Here’s the Clue: “Our Thoughts Are Not Always In Agreement With Our Spoken And Written Words.”
What does that mean?
There are basic energies associated with ideas and words.
All our communication and actions are based on our ideas and words, but, often, it turns out that our ideas do not match up with the definitions of the words we use in daily Life.
You could easily have one meaning at the Conscious Mind level (which is the only one we use during our daily activities).
But, there could be an entirely different interpretation of these words or ideas at our Subconscious Mind level.
If our Conscious Mind and our Subconscious Mind have a disagreement over the “real” meaning of a word or idea, then, Nature has decreed that our Subconscious Mind will get the final, determining vote on the matter, regardless of our Conscious wishes to the contrary.
Unfortunately, the Subconscious Mind has our oldest and most flawed memory patterns as to what words and ideas mean to us.
It would be a mistake to think that these old memories are forgotten. They are still at work 24/7 defining our World and what we’re allowed to do and not do. We have to bring these definitions into alignment with our Conscious wishes in order to succeed.
How is this done?
The most common approaches have been to employ either Psychotherapy or Hypnotherapy to find the root of these patterned responses. But, this can be a lengthy and expensive way to go. I must say, however, that of the two approaches, Hypnotherapy gets the fastest results by a country mile.
Could there be another way to resolve these mis-aligned Minds of ours? I believe so. At least, that’s been my experience.
How do we go about this? If we go directly to the concepts, words and structures where the energies are locked up in patterns, we can affect and change them and bring them into alignment with our present adult definitions, goals and desires.
When I did this, I found this interesting quirk: No matter where the recipient of this process lived, even on the other side of the globe, the effects took place and positive energy was released and progress noted where none had happened before.
The model I’m entertaining on how this is happening deals with a link being made to the SuperConscious Mind via the SubConscious Mind during the procedure.
That would appear to be a little too much to go into in this blog right now, but, if you’re interested further you can visit my link at the end of this article for more information.
How can you use this information now?
Well, I’d say one of the first things I’d recommend (barring using this new approach) would be to carefully examine the words and phrases you use in your everyday life and try to determine if you actually have positive feelings about the so-called positive affirmations that you may be using.
You see, positive thinking is great, but, it will only really work if there is no inner opposition to what’s being said. And, the little kid inside you, may have a different view of what money, success and work mean to Them than the adult You does!
It’s just the way we’re built. The Subconscious Mind will win in any argument or disagreement between the definition or meaning of a word, idea or phrase, no matter how popular or sweet it seems to the Conscious Mind.
That is, unless you can change their perspective to match your adult one.
Your Subconscious Mind is working 24 hours a day, every day while your Conscious Mind is only “on duty” during your waking hours. That means, just on the basis of “work hours”, you Subconscious Mind will beat your Conscious Mind every time. And, you aren’t going to be able to “wear it down” by repeating mantras of positive affirmations because it will be working on undoing them while you’re sleeping every night.
But, if you put yourself in a relaxed state and emotionally “reason” with your younger self (the Subconscious Mind) about how it’s definitions of words like “love”, “success” or “money” are no longer needed or appropriate, you can, perhaps make some headway in solving the problem. All these old programs are only there to further your Survival (which is the Subconscious’s main motivation to keep these programs running) and need to be converted into your desired definitions to make you truly Happy
You can do this right where you live and on your own. It costs nothing and might help as I said.
If you decide to have a good hypnotherapist help you with this, make sure you are both on the same page and after the same results. Changing your old definitions of the very words that describe what you’re trying to accomplish in your adult life.
Although this process will quite often require some regression hypnosis work, in the end you’ll almost certainly be pleased with the results. – George
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Mindsets Right And Wrong
March 19, 2009 · Leave a Comment
Your line of thinking will create a life of success or failure. Your belief that your talents and abilities are set in stone is a mindset doomed for failure. If however you have a growth mindset, knowing that your talents and great abilities will develop over a period of time. Read more
